About me
Nice to meet you here. I am a Kenyan woman from the Kikuyu tribe. I have two beautiful daughters and one wonderful son. I live in Kenya and The Netherlands where I meet with my clients. On this page you can get to know me a bit better.
Early childhood
Born in 1985, my father arrived after my birth to find my mother alone, hungry, and upset. As an infant, I was left longing for attention, unaware of the circumstances. This marked the beginning of living up to others’ expectations. (@Dad, mum: in case you read this, I love you very much)
1993 till 1997: Soon I was spotted in my school as a star for the singing competition, performing for my school for years. I was representing the central province, ending up as number three in Kenya for music festivals.
2003: I joined college and for the first time felt in charge of my life. This is because, though the course I was taking was very new and there were not many universities offering it at the time, I knew this is what I wanted to do even though I had no idea why. It was public relations.
2006-2011: I got married and soon after, experienced a conflict of interest between family life and my career. I fell back into my early childhood pattern of living for others, making everybody happy Around except myself. I worked in church and could reconnect to singing which brought me energy. I also did counselling to church members which felt very natural to do and people were able to restore a sense of purpose. I was not very aware of what I was doing which helped people so much. Both the counselling and the singing made me feel very alive.
Awakening and Redefining: 2011-2022
2011- 2022: I served as a pastor in a new branch. Singing was still my passion and I thrived in it. My preaching was substantial during this time and interacting with people brought a lot of energy. Nevertheless, I felt like a clone, completely living up to expectations of others and struggled to really fit in.
Growing up tethered to others’ expectations echoes
through adulthood as a constant battle of self-doubt and pursuit of approval 
2021: Corona hit, and this was a redefining moment for me. I asked myself what I really wanted. I finally found space to reconnect to the parts of me that I had moved away from.
2022: I changed my career path, got a job as a Public Relations team lead in an international company, and ended my marriage. It was both a defining and refining moment that formed the foundation for my next phase in life. It taught me to surrender and trust life. During this period, I looked in my family tree, got insights into repetitive ancestral patterns in me and understood the collective fields we are all part of: our ancestors, society and the world.
I fully engaged with all the knowledge I gained about this and applied it to my own life. I did a lot of shadow work. Shadow work for me is going back to my family tree, consciously acknowledging and embodying the beautiful things and integrating the painful things to allow healing to come. From there, destructive repetitive generational patterns and trauma are identified and changed.
Going Further My Path: 2024
Then I left employment to pursue my dreams as a life coach and music. I now feel likestanding at the entrance of an open room with endless possibilities and freedom. What is in the room is not all visible yet, but I trust it. I show myself and I am at ease. I can breathe now.
Learning from Teachers:
Throughout my life coaching, I’ve been fortunate to learn from various teachers and guides who have shaped my path and understanding of generational, collective &childhood trauma, systemic work, and interventions. I list them below with the corresponding learnings from them in acknowledgment of their work and wisdom.
Arjan Schollaart: Family Constellations and Trauma related teachings.
Bert Hellinger: Family Constellations
Jan Jacob Stam: Systemic Work with Organizations
Nell Parre & Karin Deden: Systemic Coaching & Training.
Thomas HubI: Ancestral & Collective Trauma Healing & Trauma-informed leadership.
David James Lees: Inner Child work and Inner Child healing.
